Crossroads – Small or Big

(This is a follow-up to the post Decisions – Small or Big.)

Crossroads – one of those big events in your life that either left you grinning from ear to ear for the rest of your life, or regretting that moment and crying more buckets of tears than you thought possible. Then there are some people who had no control over certain events in their life, and they weren’t just pushed down a specific road, they were put on a skate board and sent flying down that road without any warning. Then you get others who remain stuck at a specific crossroad for the rest of their life, never making a choice, not making a move. It simply remained a “Picnic at the Crossroad”.

Tough Decisions Ahead Road Sign

It is not an easy thing to go through when reaching a crossroad in your life. It changes lives and there is no going back. Second chances to get to the same crossroad and make a different choice are extremely rare, unless the roads you chose led you in a full 360 degree turn-around right back to where you started.

I must say, I do find the Old Testament very fascinating where it concerns following God and which direction one should go. When Moses had to lead the Israelites out of Egypt into the desert, God led them with a pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night (Exodus 13:21-22). David speaks about God leading him by a lamp so that David could see where his feet should go (Psalm 119:105). I especially like how King Solomon explains the light that guides us through life in Proverbs 6:23:

“For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life.”


So, if we ever get lost in life, become unsure of ourselves as to where to go, which road to take, all we have to do is go to the Holy Spirit and pray for wisdom, pay attention to His teachings and commandments given in the scripture of His Word (the Bible). Many of the answers we are looking for can be found in scripture if we will just take a little time and effort to actually open the book (whether it is made of pages or a digital one or your phone or laptop, it doesn’t matter).

Other than not reading the Bible to see what amazing tips are hidden there, we forget to make time to listen to the Holy Spirit. Especially in today’s society, regardless of whether you are in Spain, America, Australia, South Africa or Russia, we have become a people who is used to being busy from the moment we wake up until we go to bed. Whether it is busy sorting out major work problems from 4am until 11pm, or going to school from 7am then after school watching TV series and movies in-between homework until bedtime, we are all too busy to hear what God is saying. And still, we will have the audacity to lift our fists to God and say, “I never hear your voice, I don’t see the visions you promised!”


(The above picture is just a little something to put a smile on your face…)

Quiet times are very important. It is like having a date with God every day. So if you don’t pitch up for that date, well, of course you’re not going to hear or see anything. It’s as bad as you getting stood up by your boyfriend at the restaurant, then your boyfriend phones you, yelling at you, “I never even got to see you! It’s all your fault I never got pizza!” I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if God reacted like you would – mouth hanging open from surprise and saying, “Whaaaat?” Well, of course you won’t see or eat that pizza, because you never even arrived for the date.

So, if you don’t take a few minutes every day, even if it is only 10 minutes to meet God and hear what he has to say and show, you will miss out on so much. Don’t miss out on your date with God.

Crossroads in life should be taken very seriously. It is like I recently heard at Counselling class when we were discussing divorce as a crossroad – it should be taken as seriously and prayerfully as deciding whom to marry. That’s what a crossroad should involve – prayer, quiet time, and if necessary to bring you to a point of standing still and really to make sure you hear the Holy Spirit’s voice and see His guidance, do some fasting (it works wonders).


More often than not, we tend to jump right over the lamp, run right past the pillar of fire and in desperation we go wherever we think we should go – and yes, sometimes we do it because “I know better”, “I have experience”, “I know what I am doing”. Then when we fall off from a cliff (because we ran too fast in the dark to see the edge), we turn around and then curse God, saying, “Why did you lead me this way?” Funny how we always blame God for our own mistakes, pride and stubbornness – never willing to own up to our mistake and take responsibility for our own choices.

And there is a word of warning for those who do not obey God’s commandments and apply his teachings to their lives:

“The light of the righteous rejoices, but the lamp of the wicked will be put out.” – Proverbs 13:9

“If he curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.” – Proverbs 20:20

Remember the story of the 10 virgins and the oil for their lamps (as told in Matthew 25:1 – 12)? The oil is the Holy Spirit, always keep the flame bright. Jesus Christ is the lamp, and according to John 1:1-4, Jesus Christ is the Word and the Light. So, will you take time every day to drink the oil of the Holy Spirit, eat the Word of Jesus Christ while on a date with God, so that you know where to go, what to do?


I promise you, that your life will change forever if you do. And you will be able to navigate the crossroads of life so much better.

“And the Spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and might, the Spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord.” – Isaiah 11:2

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